On their turf

Matthew 8_15-13 tells of the remarkable faith of a Roman officer, but an emphasis is all given to Jesus' character... His desire to meet people in their own space. At the drop of a hat He was willing to stop what He was doing, change direction and go to a complete strangers house.

Meeting with and spending time with the Romans was almost as bad as associating with the sick, prostitutes and tax collectors, but this was Jesus' way.

Communication.

Jesus wasn't like Robin Hood, steling from the rich to give to the poor.
Jesus gave to everyone.

He preached in the synagogue.

Touched and healed the sick.

Dined with the religious elite.

Sat and drank with adulterers and prostitutes.

No matter what the audience, Jesus delivered the message in their terms and on their turf.

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Seeking a connection

Communication doesn't begin with words, it begins with a connection.

Coming together, sharing of life and self, seeking to know and be known.

Community/Compassion/Communion/Communication are all rooted to "Com" [Latin] = "together". The word "Communication" comes from the Latin word "Communicare" = "to share together"/"to make common".

Many technological and scientific understandings have dumbed down the idea of "communication" as the transfer of information. The physical connection has become lost somewhere along the way.

Jesus was all about sharing together and making the connection

"The Word became flesh and dwelt among us..."

From His first breaths in that dark, damp, smelly barn - to His final breaths on that dirty, blood-stained cross, His life (and death) were about reaching people.

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Silence isn't golden

This issue of attentiveness isn't just a problem when dealing with other people. God can also feel the brunt of our self-centeredness.

I know personally, I have caught myself singing worship songs on a Sunday night, but my brain has been thinking about what to eat for supper, or whether to have tea or coffee after the meeting, or what I've got to do at work in the morning!

Singing these very serious words like "I surrender all to you" but obviously not meaning it.
Other times I have tried to have a quiet prayer time in bed and actually fell asleep mid-sentence! Could you imagine what it would feel like if someone fell asleep whilst you were talking to them?!

Just being silent isn't enough, we can appear to be quiet on the outside but inside we are making heaps of noise.

Jesus wasn't just silent, He was actively attentive.

Here are some ways we can be more like Jesus . . .

1# ASK QUESTIONS_ Out of all the questions asked of Jesus, He only answered 2 ! The rest He answered with another question of His own. This is a useful way to dig below the surface of what is being talked about.

2# REMOVE DISTRACTIONS_ Turn off TVs, phones, computers, music. Multi-tasking always takes away from the main focus. By 'sacrificing' these distractions, we are showing how important listening is.

3# BODY LANGUAGE_ Just as kneeling in prayer isn't necessary, it helps to focus us and give us a humble heart. So too body language says a lot about our listening. Eye-contact prevents further distraction and suggests openness and honesty.

4# TAKE NOTE OF THE "MARGINS"_ Jesus was all about spending time with the "invisibles", the poor, the alienated and the sick.

5# LEARN TO SEE_ Not visually, but to understand more about a situation or person. If we learn the family, culture or life-story of an individual, we can better understand and help.

Over time these disciplines will become habits and these habits will become character. It is difficult to live like Jesus, to live in the present. To not look back (reminiscing) and to not look forward (anticipating). It is only in the here and now that we can attend to others.

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Lipstick

This attentiveness may look like a passive quality, but in Jesus case it is not.

It was ACTIVE.

Watching and seeking.

Jesus mainly paid attention to those overlooked by others. The homeless, the sick, the unlovely, the rejected. He reached out to people who had been told they were useless and gave them a use, worthless and gave them worth, undignified and gave them dignity, loveless and gave them love.

It's the little details that Jesus cared about.

Jesus took this attentiveness a step further with empathy and attentiveness of the heart.

It is one thing to attune our eyes and ears to what is around us, but far more difficult to open our hearts.

We long to feel understood and valued.

We are ALL insecure.

Rob Bell tells a story of a Red Cross package arriving at a concerntration camp. All it contained was lipsticks. Even though lipstick was probably the last thing on the list of things they needed, it actually worked!
Women lay in bed with no sheets and no nightie, but with scarlet red lips. Wondering around with nothing but a blanket drapped over their shoulders, but with bright red lips.

The holucaust was mainly achievable by taking away these peoples humanity.

Someone had turned them from numbers back into people again. The lipstick started to give them back their humanity.

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Active Attentiveness

People crave attention (almost as much as oxygen!), this was the case 2000 years ago and still is today.
With the growth in technology we are in constant connection to the world (mobile phones, palm tops, lap tops, wireless internet, web cams and chat rooms) but without physically meeting eye-to-eye.

After having a conversation with someone not long ago, I was surprised to hear of their feelings of aloneness.

Lost in a crowd.

Mother Teresa said "As far as I am concerned, the greatest suffering is to feel alone, unwanted, unloved..."

We don't need more stuff, we don't need new medicines, bigger bombs, we don't need to know what the next solar system looks like. We need someone to listen to us, not as a 'patient', not just waiting for their turn to talk.

Someone to REALLY listen.

We are all attention seekers.

Too often I catch myself hearing someone speak to me without actually listening.

Picture a dusty side street, 2000 years ago in Jericho.

The hustle and bustle of the market traders, people getting on with their day-to-day lives.

Bartimaeus, blind and begging in his usual spot, people just pass him by.

Next minute, excitement, crowds of people pushing and shoving... "Jesus of Nazareth is here!"

"Jesus!" the blind man calls out, but the crowd tell him to be quiet. Jesus hears Bartimaeus' voice, recognizes a need and approaches him.

"What do you want me to do for you?" Jesus asks, waiting, listening.

Can this great man really want an answer from me?

Jesus' expectant silence confirms this to Bartimaeus and he is healed.

Jesus listens.

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VOX blog

Hey homees!

No blog for a while now, sorry...I know I suck!
Ive been trying to deal with redundancy stuff and sort out how I'm gonna pay the bills and feed an extra mouth that will soon be moving into our house.

Anyhoo... Mr J T asked me to blog on the oakham VOX blog and I have posted my 1st on there. As you would expect the site looks pretty swanky. Please take a look, read, comment and get involved.

Facebook and myspace is SO last year!

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